Should You Date a Much Older Guy or Gal?
Older men and women have more life experience and are less likely to play relationship games. While getting serious with an older man or woman has several perks, everybody should consider a major drawback. Whenever a man gets involved with a younger woman, and vice versa, there is always that tendency to “parent.” Because the younger partner has less experience with many different areas of life, it’s natural for the older partner to offer unwelcome guidance, and perhaps attempt to re-shape their thinking on specific subjects. A May-December romance can succeed, but it takes work. It’s easier to connect with persons in our own age group. Even if you have similar interests and personality traits, the different maturity level can cause a huge rift in the relationship.
Reference: May-December Romance
Reference: Why Women Like Older Guys?
This entry was contributed by Valencia Higuera.
May 28th, 2007 at 10:42 am
I must agree. I am married to a woman who is 8 years my senior. We began dating when I was 22 and she was 30. This is not heard of as much as the man being older. Trust me; I’ve encountered plenty of stunned faces. Probably the biggest obstacle is that fact that you’re not at the same place in your life. Surely if you’ve already been 22 and 30 years of age, you know they’re completely different times and you want different things. For example, she was interested in purchasing a home. I on the other hand could have cared less. It wasn’t something I was even thinking about. However, if you have plenty in common and always strive to relate and devote time to one another, it definitely can work. Then again, I think some folks step too far outside of their age group. I can’t fathom why a 45 year old man would want to be with a 19 year old girl, but I have known men like this. There would be virtually nothing in common between them. And can you imagine their conversations?
June 8th, 2007 at 10:36 am
Yeah, I think this is something that definitely needs to be explored before jumping in. I think when there is a huge age gap, your likes and dislikes are so vastly different it usually ends in the demise of a relationship.
July 6th, 2007 at 11:55 am
I agree, Clint — your age difference, 8 years, your wife being “older” is definitely not as common as an older man snagging a young girl. Again, what on earth would they have to discuss? It sounds like you have a great relationship, and you work at it — that is key. I have known of men who married a woman their senior, and it seems to work out fine. I think, as you pointed out, regardless of the age difference, you have to have something in common and communication must be key.