The Dating Timeline
I recently wrote about the expectations one may have when starting a new relationship. In another Mars and Venus twist, when it comes to dating schedules, men and women can have different ideas of what makes a good timeline. This timeline is slowly changing, but we’re finally starting to agree on a few key points. Here’s a status report on our progress thus far…
The Let’s-Make-A-Date Phone Call:
Between 3 and 7 days.
The First Kiss:
At the end of the first date, if you feel comfortable, but let’s not forget romance.
The First ‘Sleepover’:
At least 3 dates. You may also add one night spent together in bed without intercourse.
The I-Love-You’s:
Don’t rush to blurt out the words because you’re on a wild pheromone trip. Give it at least 2 to 3 months, a good period in which to assess the quality of the relationship and whether you see it carrying on into the future.
The Discussion About Your Past:
Unless you need to cough out a big one that may make-or-break the relationship…never.
The First Holiday:
After a month.
Finally, the worst thing you could do as both an individual and as part of a couple is to prolong giving a relationship the boot when it simply isn’t working. If you’ve exhausted all of your repair options, then it’s best to let it go, no matter where you are in your timeline. This is your future – don’t waste time on something that isn’t going to work out.
Reference: Indiatimes
Reference: Are You Sliding Or Deciding?
June 12th, 2007 at 2:26 am
Not sure I agree with all of this, particularly that you should never discuss your past. I don’t like the idea of having any taboo topics in a relationships. While it’s probably not a good idea to reveal too much too soon, once a relationship becomes serious I think it’s really important to know where your partner has come from, including the gory details of how many partners and such.
June 12th, 2007 at 9:15 am
agree with lauren..i believe in being straight forward..
June 12th, 2007 at 4:24 pm
I think you’re right, Kirri, about the past… at least for some details. Some things are necessary to tell, but if your conversations are always dwelling on the past, clearing there is something missing from the present.
June 12th, 2007 at 4:25 pm
“clearLY” not “clearing”
June 13th, 2007 at 10:48 pm
It’s great to see a timeline posted that gives people a general rule of thumb (if you will). It is important to follow ettiquette, if there is such a thing anymore, but I believe in common sense as well. You have to be honest, open minded and willing to share — and I’m afraid I must agree with the others, I thinkyou should be completely honest.